I’m convinced that I don’t have a “normal” sexual appetite. I want it quite often and literally think about it everyday; which is why I started illrotic, so I can get it off of my mind and on to your screen. There’s really no “normal” amount one should desire sex (or actually do the deed). Your libido is unique, as is everyone else’s.
Nothing wrong with a low or high sex drive until it starts to affect your life in negatively. If you seem to have an unusually low or high libido you should look into some reasons this may be happening. This article helps breakdown some of those factors:
It’s believed that men have a higher libido than women. It has been proven that men think about sex more, crave it more and quite frankly do it more than women on average. Sure… But don’t be fooled into thinking women aren’t just as sexually charged. I think we just don’t express it in the same way as men, because we’ve basically been taught not to.
Research has found that men’s hyper sexuality comparison may be due to the restraints on women’s sexual freedom brought on by society. We all know this as...
The double standard:
- Men are allowed to be more sexual than women and, therefore, they are more forthcoming about their sexual urges.
This great article describes how Daniel Bergner, a journalist and contributing editor to the New York Times Magazine, thinks that monogamy is society’s way of constraining female sexuality. He implies that this constraint is unjust and prudish. He is not alone. Salon’s Tracy Clark-Flory hailed his book for revealing
“…how society’s repression of female sexuality has reshaped women’s desires and sex lives…”
Bergner, and the leading sex researchers he interviews, argue that women’s sexuality is not the rational, civilized and balancing force it’s so often made out to be — that it is base, animalistic and ravenous, everything we’ve told ourselves about male sexuality.”
Bergner goes on to say that although women can be more sexually charged their sex drive is also flexible, meaning women are more willing to prioritize monogamy over their libido.
But on the other side of this debate — psychological researcher Roy Baumeister, set out to prove men's libido was naturally stronger than women’s.
In one study they found, that for men the goal of sex is sex itself. Whereas for women said that love and intimacy were important goals of sex. Men also think about sex more, according to studies. When men and women monitor their sexual urges over a seven-day period, men report having twice as many sexual urges as women do.
“Women might be more willing to adapt their sexuality to local norms and contexts and different situations, because they aren’t quite so driven by strong urges and cravings as men are.”
So to sum it up : women may not think about sex as much and social pressure makes us hesitate on all of our sexual urges, however we want it just as much and I say go get you sum girl… f*ck what anyone else thinks! *just be safe.*